How much of yourself are you willing to lose in order
not to lose someone?
Perhaps you say "yes" when you would rather say "no."
Perhaps you avoid difficult conversations to avoid conflict.
You accept hurtful behaviors, diminish your needs, or try
to be the perfect person so that someone has no reason to leave.
And, little by little, something happens:
you maintain the relationship, but you begin to lose yourself within it.
DON'T ABANDON YOURSELF TO BE LOVED is an invitation
to interrupt this cycle.
With a welcoming, profound, and practical approach, Sara Melo
shows how to recognize the moments when the desire to
be loved begins to cost you your self-esteem, your
boundaries, your voice, and your identity.
This book will help you:
• recognize when you are diminishing yourself to be accepted;
• establish boundaries with more clarity and less guilt;
• Differentiate between love, fear, dependence, and emotional
obligation;
• Identify reciprocity through behaviors, not just promises;
• Recover desires, projects, and parts of yourself left behind;
• Strengthen self-esteem through concrete choices;
• Build relationships where intimacy doesn't require loss of identity;
• Learn to love deeply without disappearing within love.
You don't need to become smaller to fit into anyone's love.
If keeping someone requires abandoning your voice, your
boundaries, your dreams, and essential parts of who you
are, perhaps the price is too high.
DON'T ABANDON YOURSELF TO BE LOVED is for those
who want to build more mature, reciprocal, and emotionally
secure relationships—starting with the relationship that
accompanies all others:
the relationship with yourself.
You can love someone deeply without leaving yourself behind.