The Reason to Forgive - Forgiveness as expression of love by accepting the worst while desiring the best #922655

Psychologists define forgiveness as a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment or vengeance toward a person or group who has harmed you, regardless of whether they deserve your forgiveness.
Forgiveness brings the forgiver peace of mind and frees them from corrosive anger. Forgiveness requires positive feelings toward the offender. Experts agree that it at least involves letting go of deeply held negative feelings. In that way, it empowers you to recognize the pain you suffered without letting that pain define you, enabling you to heal and move on with your life.
Contemporary accounts of forgiveness are put into creative dialogue to assess different forms of approach to the resistance forgiveness offers to thought. Forgiveness can involve a process of transformation of understanding that is akin to the spirituality of death and resurrection. Forgiveness is paradoxical and resistant to thought, not because it involves a simple suspension of or opposition to reasoned forms of judgment, but because it consists of holding together attitudes, concerns, and insights that do not easily cohere. In this sense, forgiveness is an expression of a love that both hopes and bears all things; a way of accepting the worst while desiring the best.